What weighs you down?

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Letting something go completely is not always that easy, especially those memories that have been near and dear to our heart, the ones that hurt us so badly that we want to keep living in the same zone over and over again thinking about the same (negativity bias).

A moment where we lacked courage to do the right thing and still bearing the consequences of the same is one of the hardest things to let go.

Love and time.. they say, heals every ache and pain and makes it easy to let go. The only problem is in our mind not much time has passed since the incident that is weighing us down as we carry it all the time and keep reliving it, so time always does not heal it until we actually acknowledge that time has seriously passed and we are the ones stuck in the hamster wheel. Love, an unconditional love heals everything, even self-love is not unconditional!

That said, how do we let go… I am searching for the same, sometimes trying to reverse the clock and at times trying to reverse my actions/decisions.

A few points that have helped me or think have helped me are:

1. Meditation — Meditation is like a one-stop solution for almost every problem, that I have encountered. It is like a magic pill. I use a process called Thinkitate! It is a process where you meditate with one goal or just one problem in your mind and when your mind is calm (the result of deep and repeated slow breaths) your brain gets more creative and finds simple yet innovative solutions to problems you once thought were impossible to solve! It has helped me find one or more solutions to the problem at hand (or more accurately in my head here :)). Read more about Thinkitation here.
2. Communication— Talk about the problem to a person close to you, or to the person who caused the problem. Talking and understanding the point of view of a different person or walking in their shoes makes it easy to view the problem under a different lens and then eventually nullify the effects caused.
3. Implementation — Last but not the least every problem has a solution and it is up to the individual to make peace with the incident or the person. The solution can be found during meditation or just by a simple open-minded communication, but implementing the solution is the sole responsibility of the individual.
4. Liberation — This is how you feel, when you have actually and wholly forgiven the individual/incident which caused the pain and was weighing you down. Forgiving is an art and a muscle which can be honed. Start by forgiving simple incidents like an argument with a waiter or the person in the queue which he did not follow etc., It is easier to find and forgive simple incidents and work up to the larger ones. It takes time (how much is dependent on you) and requires patience, but it is possible and doable.

Hopefully the steps mentioned above would help resolve the problem or at least help you get started in the path of resolution, it would always be a repetitive process until we have achieved a calm state of mind where there exists no thoughts or memories that can weigh us down!

I strongly believe that every incident and every individual we meet in our life is here to teach us something good or bad, the faster we learn the lesson and make peace with it the better it would be!

P.S — Thank you for reading, I am still new to writing so it would definitely help if you can leave a comment about how I can improve or what you liked about the article and thanks in advance if you do :)